Dear diary… no no no… i’m a man, man has
no diary!! Lets call you a Journal of some sort. Manly journal? M-J? Mustachio Journal? Well what ever the M will stand for lets go for M-J for now i guess.
So for quite a while, like maybe the last 2 years maybe less, i have been trying to adjust my Grinch side. Like remember that one argument, quarrel… with the friend we, i mean I had in that spring and I realized I wasn’t really “nice”or a good person? Since then i have been thinking and trying to gradually tame or change my inner Grinch. I mean, i wasn’t evil, but the aspect of the character of wanting to stay alone and not to be bothered was a problem. I wasn’t nice…
I’ve changed? Well my friend said so after we talked some while back. So can i assume it’s a mini victory? A Win? Maybe. I have been meeting new people a lot, and i have been slowly trying to see if I can improve or… hide some meaner side of my self. Anyway, so meeting new people here in Shanghai is different, though not by a LOT but still quite different. It also depends on how i approach them. Though… from what i have noticed, people don’t perceive me as a threat of any level, even girls… i’m like a bearded fluffy creature of friendliness to most people here, i think…. sigh (you remember cousin IT? from The Adams Family?)
I have been trying to put my self more out there. Going to places, events, meet ups where I can see a lot of people be it foreigners or Chinese. One place i started to go was salsa class! I have learned it a bit in past, so i thought i’ll start doing it again in SH. So I did.
Salsa! It’s a lot of fun, and for my surprise, a lot of guys come here too. At first I though I might meet more foreigners, but not really, just few show up for the beginner group. Maybe there are more in advanced class but I haven’t started those yet. Mostly it’s Chinese people which is understandable. I was really surprised about girl guy ratio. Looking at my experience from high school period and before, usually the ratio is way, way out of balance. Here a lot of guys are interested to learn. Still, there are more girls but it’s more balanced and everyone gets to learn and enjoy them self. I get to meet people there all the time. From uni’s or people who work, some younger or older, but the crowed is warm and full of desire to learn.
I have been going to meet ups as well, on different topics and events. The crowed can vary and depends on the occasion or the topic. Though often it’s quite chilled, relaxed. Open and curious people, everyone wants to know everything and get to know each other. Like little bee’s, buzz buzz buzzzzzz around looking for the flower they want. Thus i’m forced to open up, talk and share. Which is fine now. But the past me in this situation might not be so happy. Ahh the past me, you were so cool, a lone wolf, a mystery! Now i’m like a little noisy bird jumping from one branch to another… or maybe not i don’t even know anymore.
People tend to disappear in a way as well. As quickly as they come into your life and exchange contacts, at the same speed they poof, disappear. I mean,everyone is busy with their lives so you can’t expect everyone to spend lots of time or invest tons of energy in each other. Though it makes all of this really dynamic and like a mini adventure. Cuz you don’t know when you will meet a new exciting character in your life.
I have observed people that are in my age group, well something like from 18 till 30. They are quite curious. Most people I meet, they want to know things about you. Exchange contacts, talk and meet and become friends. It’s slowly turning me into a really social creature. Though it’s tiring, I think it’s good for me in the long run. People like other people here. Or maybe i’m just likable thus I attract likables?
Also, my co-worker just gave me a dried “Dragon eye”!! You see it’s almost like we are best buds, other wise I can’t explain how he can give me something so valuable. Ou and what it is? Well it’s this interesting fruit. For me it reminds of a big grape when it comes to the taste. It’s a bit bigger than a BIG grape, and has a shell around it, that you pierce with your nail, take off, and then like a naked grape appears, that actually looks like an eye a bit is inside, and you nom nom it. This one was dried though. A giant raisin!